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I know lots of people who, even though they are completely different from each other when it comes to personality, profession, selecting buddies, etc., still have one element in common.  I’ll talk about these people as if they were one single SPV (Self-Proclaimed Victim) and will call them Judas.

Judas SPV leaves home early in the morning, smiles and waves ‘hi’ to his neighbor, he has a happy short conversation with the guy at the news stand and, even though it’s a long slow commute, he arrives into his office, smiles at everyone, chats with anyone he stumbles upon and the ‘pleases’ and ‘thank yous’ are an important part of his vocabulary when it comes to

strangers, either on the phone, or knocking at his door, or wherever.  Goes from meeting to meeting without complaining and by the time the clock hits 6… he gets into his car and heads home.

When he gets home Judas SPV smiles at every neighbor in his way and as-soon-as-the-key-hits-the-lock he gets ‘the look’.  That hostile and distant look our Judas SPV puts on his face as he arrives home and his family comes to greet him.

As soon as he walks in he nags about traffic, whines at the cold or hot weather - because he seems to like neither - hollers about his boss, and the amount of work he had during the day… and tells everyone that he’s tired and that he doesn’t want to hear anything about anyone.  He sits in front of the TV and ignores whatever is going on around him.  Has dinner and goes to bed.

Present… yet absent.  That is the relationship Judas SPV has with those he claims to love and who love him back… Hi and Good-bye in between the anger and the  cold shoulder!

But… if his neighbor happens to come by, right before he goes to bed, to ask for a screwdriver - or whatever - we’ll see how our Judas SPV ‘revives’ and smiles and chats away until the guy leaves.
So… didn’t Judas SPV say he had had it with his day and that he was tired and that he wanted to know nothing about anyone?

Will somebody please explain!!!!

I wonder…. what on earth does the neighbor have to deserve such nice treatment that his family doesn’t?  What could possibly hurt the guy if he had a nice short conversation with his family?  What makes him think his day was harder? When he never even took the time to ask them!

Okay Judas SPV... Your family is the one who’s gonna be there when you're sick… or old.  Don’t you dare ask later where everybody went!

People, it’s just as easy to smile to a whole bunch of strangers during the day, than it is to the family you claim to love so much.  Don’t say you love them when you don’t show it!

Love is about laughing, chatting, spending time together, hugging, and relaxing among people who love you.  If you come in with a positive attitude you will get positive attitudes back… Otherwise you just get people to dread your presence and will leave you alone - little by little - and then one day you’ll realize that you wasted away your life on those who weren’t worth it.

Take of the long face, stop complaining, and show those you care about… how much you care!