The prelude to this rhetoric is: Could somebody please explain!

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We are there… we’ve arrived to our destination… the true purpose of this page. I know I must have led you to believe that I’m a real victim of those self-proclaimed ones… how do I put it?  Hmm… nop… not really, I’m not… and let me tell you why…

For the past few months I’ve been creating and making a point to get to this place and time… the day has come to answer my rhetoric question on why I am the way I am.  The answer is as simple as… because I chose to.

I feel what I feel because I decided to feel so.  If I hate, love, or ignore someone it’s because I decided to do so… If I’m glad or depressed… there’s no one to blame… no one is responsible!  No one can change my life or feelings… I’m the only one who’s responsible for doing so and - crying about it - is not gonna get me anywhere…

Several readers have asked me, over and over again, what to do not to dismay from the actions of SPVs… look, I can out my opinion… but the answer is in each and every one of us… you just gotta listen to it in your heart and mind… you are strong enough as to have a bright and happy today, in spite of your past experiences… or because of them.  Every experience strengthens us or destroys us… it’s up to us.  It depends on what we chose to do or feel.

I’ve been sarcastic and relentless in my criticism towards SPVs on this site.  I’m not gonna change that… it’s just that I have to, now, translate those SPV’s behaviors into how they apply to us, the rest-of-us-mortals… and I understand that having a sad story does not excuse us from taking responsibility… I don’t know if you feel the same way, but I can assure you that - to free ourselves from that freaking negative load - all we need to do is choose to.  Unless you want to end up as the leading character in one of those stories on this site, right?   Of course they’ve made us laugh… or cry… because each and every one of them is an opportunity to talk about it… to feel it… to raise our voices to be heard… I’m telling you… we can make our pasts as present as we want!

Somehow, criticism and sarcasm clear our feelings in a way that we can manage them in our psyche with no effort at all.  It is fun to do it and… thus, feels good… as if it gave us power over something!  I don’t know, but laughter helps and, by God, HOW!

I’ve abandoned my island and am heading back to the continent with brand new luggage… with a barefooted mind… I call it: Barefoot Thinking! ©… can you imagine?  Nice, huh!?  When you take off your shoes at night you feel so, so good… and you wiggle your toes, and stretch your feet… enjoying the feeling.  Now, can you imagine being able to do that with your mind?  Feeling every step, appreciating it and… to top it all, enjoying it?  I don’t believe there’s a nicer feeling!  I love living a life of Barefoot Thinking! ©

There’s been over 20 years since I decided to wear nothing but comfy shoes, literally… not comfy - not wearable… no one can force me to wear uncomfortable ones just because they are in fashion… well, the same can be done with our minds.  No one can force you to feel or think ANYTHING!  Will someone believe us to be ridiculous?  Yeah… so what?   Nos importaaa? ®

Now I must explain to you that all we are ‘forced’ to do is improve our lives, our essence, our space and relationships.  If you touch someone on the way… good… if not, well, it’s not your purpose in life anyways!   We cannot change others; we can only change ‘us’!  We can re-evaluate everything until we get to, what I consider our purpose in life:  enjoy each and every moment of it!  Pleasing ourselves… and the hell with those who don’t like it!

Now I tell you that the ‘I’ followed by whichever verb you like is… actually, what makes us stronger and whole!  I am happy… I live… I can do it!  I love… I inspire!

It’s so easy to decide to be depressed, overwhelmed or weary… it’s not so easy to decide to enjoy our spirituality or sense of self… but, I can tell you it’s so much more fulfilling.  So, I gotta ask… where are you going?  Where the heck are you going?

Has it ever happened to you that you get an idea and you decide to tell every person you know about it, only to be discouraged by those you told?

I’m telling you… go for it!  Go for your idea, it’s yours and no one else’s!  The worst thing that could happen is it not working… but, what if it does?  Will you be able to live with the realization that you could’ve done something but decided it was easier to forget it?  Step on it… firmly and as if it were already there… completely barefooted and at ease… inspired and enthusiastic!